Over the past few months, I have learned one of the best ways to build community is to mentor people in need. I have taken on three gay mentees because they reached out for help, or because someone else knew they were in need of help and connected me to them.
M, J1 and J2 (I am only using the first initial of their first names) all had different needs.
- M, who had just come out of the closet, needed someone to help him to reinvent his
- J1 needed an empathetic, listening ear because he was beginning to
feel marginalized in his professional life and trapped in his personal life.
- J2 needed help navigating the cross-cultural implications of being
Yet despite their different needs, they all needed to hear one key message from me, and I am going
to steal it from Dan Savage (www.itgetsbetter.org).
It gets better.
And this is truly why we build community. We want things to get better, and I feel so good, at the core of my soul, when I am helping others do, be, feel, and get better.
So here’s my advice to you.
- If you need to get better, seek out a mentor.
- If you know someone needs to get better, reach out and offer to serve as a mentor.
Isn’t it time you helped yourself and/or someone else get better?
You’ll surely be building a better community as a result.